30 Days to Being a Healthy Happy Mom of Many: Tip#19 Week 3 Mental Freedom

Week three is about mental clarity in the midst of all the newness that has been in your life lately. If you haven’t read the first two series, you can read them now at Week 1 and Week 2. In the last two weeks, you have changed your eating habits and have begun to exercise on a regular basis. By now drinking water isn’t such a hassle (hopefully), and perhaps you have found a workout buddy to keep you accountable.

You cannot take care of your body without taking care of your mind; the two go hand-in-hand. I’m sure there are many days you feel stressed, like your mind won’t allow you to rest because of situations that surround you. People can see it on your face, and whenever someone asks,  “How are you feeling? Are you okay?” you say that you’re doing great when in reality you are mentally drained. You are holding in all these overwhelming feelings, and doing so can eventually lead to burnout, discontent, or bitterness. What should you do? You need to step back and give yourself the permission to take a break and have mental freedom.

Are you ready for mental freedom?

Day 15. Be Still

As a mom, I’m sure you have gotten up early in the morning before the house comes alive with the beautiful sounds echoing from your family All. Day. Long. However, before all this racket happens, the morning feels calm and peaceful as the sun slowly rises, making the sky go from black to blue, blue to red, and red to gold. In those quiet moments, we must be still–if only for a few minutes. Clear your mind and ask God to guide you through the day. If you feel life is weighing you down, you should give it over to God. I mean REALLY give it over to HIM and walk away.

A few months ago for the first time in my life, I gave God a situation that I was struggling with daily. I truly let it go. I no longer think about it, question the situation, or dwell on any negative possibilities. And I have to tell you–it’s so freeing. I no longer stress over the situation and how it will be taken care of. Each day HE shows me a small glimpse that it will all work out.

At night, reflect with Him about what occurred that day. Thank HIM for all that He has provided and listen for what He may want you to do next in your life. Once you know what your next step should be, you must follow through with it and fully commit. Although it may take weeks or more to grasp the concept, use this tip as the first step towards learning to be still. Trust where God is leading you and know He will take care of it as HE orders your steps.

Day 16. Don’t Say That

Mommas, why are we so hard on ourselves?  We constantly say things like, “Why am I not smart enough? I don’t deserve a successful life; look at what I did in the past. I will never be happy or content. I won’t ever have financial security.” Please STOP the negative self-talk and start telling yourself a new story instead. There is so much power in our words, whether we say them aloud or to ourselves. When you change your mindset, you change your life.

I used to have a huge mirror, and using an erasable marker, I used it to write various words or phrases to keep me lifted up or remind myself of how fabulous I am.

  • Believe you are enough.
  • See yourself the way God sees you.
  • Live in the present.  When you dwell on the past or concentrate only on the future, you may miss an opportunity available to you now.
  • Be open to constructive criticism and change.
  • STOP waiting; “it” is happening NOW.
  • Throw fear out the door.
  • Have the courage to pursue your goals and dreams! If you want it, then go get it!

I want you to get notebook, a mirror, or even write on your phone the words/phrases that will keep the negative thinking out and fill your mind with positivity instead.

Day 17. Gratitude

What is gratitude? According to Ralph Waldo Emerson, gratitude means to “cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”

In America, we are so quick to say what we want or desire.   When we obtain the desired  item or achieve success, we are happy.  Unfortunately, though, that happiness is often short-lived because we tend to quickly move on to “the next great thing”.

There is nothing wrong with wanting more for yourself.  However, don’t get so caught up in what you don’t have that you overlook what you do have in your life. Learn to appreciate what you already have and be content with your current situation.

Today, I want you to write down three things that you are grateful for in your life. Reflect on how far you have come in the last three years, a few months, or even this past week. What has changed? Living situation? Marriage? Children? Work? There are so many topics to choose from that I’m sure you could write more than three. By showing gratitude for what we already have in our life, we can increase our well-being and happiness each day.

Day 18. Get a Massage

Whether you go to a professional, your spouse, or do-it-yourself, getting a massage can be very therapeutic. A massage can give you a relaxing moment, reduce anxiety, or help you attain relief from muscle tension. It can also improve your physical well-being and your mental state of mind.

You can give yourself a massage using a tennis ball, a foam roller, or even your hand. A few minutes is all you need. According to Buzzfeed, if you suffer from tension headaches, you can do these simple massage exercises for relief.

  •   Lie on your back with your legs bent.
  •   Holding a tennis ball in each hand between your thumb and forefinger, rest your hands behind your head so the tennis balls are on either side of the base of your skull.
  •   Alternate between shaking your head from side to side, then tucking and lifting your chin.

Try to get a massage today and see if it improves your mood.

Day 19. Unplug

We live in a time where we have access to almost anything. As soon as an event takes place we know about it because we’re probably watching it live, and not from the news but from a random stranger on his or her social media platform.  There are apps for all our needs, like prepared meals, books, household products, groceries, or cleaning services. You don’t have to leave your house to do much of anything if you don’t want too, with all the entertainment and convenience options available at your fingertips.

Although there isn’t anything wrong with being able to access these items and services, I do believe we are overstimulated like children who have a room full toys. Despite all that is in front of them, they are still unhappy until you give them a big empty  box; then they play with it all afternoon!  Why?  To put it simply, you have opened up their minds to their own ideas, imagination, and creativity.

I believe if we take time to disconnect from T.V., phones, and internet, we can start finding out what we enjoy in life. Go sit in a café and talk with someone you don’t know, go to the library (not the digital library) and check out a good book or magazine.

Right now as I write these words I’m sitting in my backyard, and the warm sun and cool breeze feel like gentle kisses from God; it’s peaceful.

Today I want you to unplug even for just an hour, no technology at all, and find the simplicities of life again.

Day 20. Clean House

This day may be the most difficult day this week. Getting rid of household clutter is essential to have a sense of peace in your everyday life, but right now I’m talking about removing negative people from your life. What is the point of changing your mindset to positivity if you continue to associate with people who bring you down, throw dirt on your name, or simply are not there for you when you need them? I wrote a poem about such people…

“Friend” is a term used loosely by loose lips

that stagger their words with trickery lies.

A web of lies that you are caught within

because of your love for them.

 

But my eyes are  wide open,

blinders are no longer closed.

God is showing me the conniving hypocrites for who they are

and I will no longer be their puppet.

Cutting the strings of their deceit

and freeing myself of any guilt

that I have ever felt

for living my life for me.”

Regardless, if it’s a friend, coworker, or family member, there will be some people in your life that you must remove so you can go to the next chapter in the book of your life. Stop allowing a season to stay longer than needed.  If winter goes on way longer than it’s supposed to, the beautiful flowers will not bloom in the spring. Let go of your storm so that you can blossom, flourish, and prosper.

Day 21. A  Letter to your Future Self

There is so much power in words, whether they are written or spoken out loud. It says in the Bible, Mark 11:22-24 (ERV), “Jesus answered, ‘Have faith in God. The truth is, you can say to this mountain, “Go, mountain, fall into the sea.” And if you have no doubts in your mind and believe that what you say will happen, then God will do it for you. So, I tell you to ask for what you want in prayer. And if you believe that you have received those things, then they will be yours.’”

Sometimes we have difficulty declaring what we want due to the fact we’re worried we won’t achieve the goal, or perhaps we fear we will achieve it and are now expected to maintain that success. Write a letter to your future self, stating what will happen if you stay on the path that is ordained for you. Are you working toward a debt-free life? Weightloss? A promotion at work? What is the “light” that you are speaking into your future self? Remind yourself of who you are and claim what is yours. I wrote myself a few letters, and I want to share one with you.

My Letter

“Chantel,

  •   Just stay focused. Don’t worry. Relax.
  •   Please hold on. The time is coming. The time is near.
  •   You are empowered in Jesus Christ to do great things!

Although there is disorder in this world, I know there is order in God. I know that He has already bestowed in me to do great things and powerful things. I need His strength as I stand up for His will and word because I am too weak to do it myself. Yes, I will do great and wonderful things beyond my wildest imagination. You will continue to thank the Lord for all He’s done, all He’s doing, and all the things He will do for you. Give Him praise, because you will be victorious!!

And Chantel, Always Remember to Have Enough for Tomorrow!”

Mommas, this week will take many days, weeks, and months of practice, but you will get it and you WILL become a Healthy Happy Mom!

 

About Chantel B

Welcome! I'm Chantel. I am a wife, a stay-at-home-mom of 5, and an aspiring Personal Trainer & Health Coach. I want to support moms needing a healthy lifestyle community. Join me as I embark on the journey of health, food, fitness, and motherhood.